I Make a Difference

Be Your True Self

A Space to Rediscover and Be Your True Self

Powerful, real and practical processes to equip you to unravel and heal who you have become, so you uncover the connection to who you truly are.

A conscious journey of exploration of the depths and breadths of who you are on the sometimes overwhelming and glorious adventure back to your jewel – your true self.

I Make a Difference will take you on an adventure of discovery that is real, different and yet very familiar, because it is about you and how you became your conditioned self and who you truly are.

The pages of my book are packed full of processes, tools and self-facilitation activities for you to explore unravel and heal yourself, which will further open and strengthen your connection with the true you – the jewel within you.

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The Process to Become Your True-Self

Understand Your Past

Your True-Self and Your Past

Your Past

There were experiences you had that had an impact on you
You were made wrong for being your true self
You separated from your true-self and created and adopted new versions of yourself

Unravel Your Conditioned-Self

Your Past Conditioning

You were conditioned.

You developed patterns of thinking, beliefs, reactions and behaviors, which created repeated patterns of situations and outcomes
You learnt to protect yourself from the others and your true self.
You suppressed your emotions, what you feel, what is true to you, your truth, your potential, the voice of your true self (your knowing) and the amazing qualities that lie within you
You learnt that it was safer to show your conditioned-self, rather than your true-self

Heal Your Hurt-Self

Your Past Hurt

You were emotionally, mentally, physically and energy-wise hurt.

You were judged, rejected, abandoned and made wrong
Your self-worth was diluted and your self-belief eroded
You became vulnerable, as it was not OK to be who you truly were and what you truly felt, so you became needy to find emotional safety and security

Reclaim Your True-Self

You Were Your True-Self

Before you separated from your true-self you:

Trusted yourself
Listened to the voice of your soul and true self – your knowing
Expressed the beautiful amazing qualities that are natural to you
Were free, spontaneous, curious, gentle, strong and adventurous

Be Your True-Self

Who You Truly Are

Who you truly are – your true-self:

This is where your soul is-the essence and the core of you
Where all the answers that are right for you are within you
Your uniqueness and potential that is you
The home of all the amazing qualities that make you – you
Your jewel
Your light
Your true home
You

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The Truth About Your True Self

The truth is there is a beautiful, unique, powerful, accepting, loving and free shining light and being within you that is you, the true you.

To truly reconnect and be your true self it is not a journey that requires an overnight bag with a change of clothes. It is an adventure that requires your willingness, resilience, commitment and action as you explore all the depths, breadths, crevices and parts of you where there is no light and where there is sunshine. Why?

You have emotions that require healing, truth you need to face within you, behaviors you need to look at, thoughts you need to unravel and faith and trust you need to reclaim so that you can get to know, respect, accept, value and be who you truly are.

In doing so you will feel things that are uncomfortable, face truths that you do not want to admit, experience vulnerability that feels like you are in quicksand and you may even want to throw in the towel and run away. At the same time, you will uncover beautiful parts of you, you have not been owning or forgot about. You will grow your belief and trust of you, you will identify and listen to your knowing (the voice of your soul) with great clarity. You will be more accepting of yourself, others and life, and discover that life is a process that you cannot control and you wont want to, because you trust how it unfolds. And you will do right by you and the right thing from a place of clarity, strength, love and care.

What does it require from you to be your true self?

Not just read a book about how to become your true self, or attend a course and say you know it and just pay lip service to your process. It requires you to get really real with yourself, face and admit what is really going on inside of you. For you to feel the emotions you experience and be in them and for you to put the tools and processes you know will help you, into action and live them.

You need to heal, unravel that which is not you, relearn about what is you, reconnect to, discover and uncover you - the true you.

I Make a Difference can guide you to do that.

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When I designed the I Make a Difference process, my own journey and experiences were the inspiration driving my passion to resource people to be self-reliant in their ability to change how they felt, what they thought, how they behaved, their interactions in their relationships and their life.

I wanted people to feel real peace within themselves. Where all the shit that has gone on in their life, was no longer impacting. Where no matter what people said or did to them that was unkind, they were no longer impacted by it and left feeling they were at fault, they were bad and that they were unworthy or even unlovable. So that they became more open to receiving the beautiful things they deserve in life.

I wanted people to feel and be free to be who they truly are. To accept, love and embrace the goodness and beauty of themselves, because they made it safe and right for themselves to do so.

That is what I want you to experience from I Make a Difference. And I am here to support you.

Melinda Cates

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FROM CONDITIONED YOU

No matter what your age is, your gender, culture or background, life does not discriminate as to who will experience emotional, mental, physiological and energy craziness and mayhem. Processing that goes on inside of you that is confusing, overwhelming at times and can even leave you feeling quite desperate. This is the conditioned and hurt you. And you find yourself asking and even internally screaming "what is it that is happening to me?", "why am I experiencing this?" and "how do I stop the hurt?" and "how do I change the conditioning?

TO THE TRUE YOU

However there is also a jewel within you, a place that is filled with strength, gentleness, beauty, acceptance, simplicity, stillness and an abundance of love. This is you, the true you. You find you are curious and want to know who truly are, what is true and right for you, how to connect and listen to the answers you know you have inside of you and how to be you.

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I worked in the steel industry for many years and during that time I attended many personal development programs. But the IMAD program is different and for me the first time that everything else has made sense. The reason for this is that IMAD is about understanding yourself. It is about understanding that everyone’s life journey has been different and that these things build the person that you are today. And that despite the differences we all have basically the same emotional responses but that our history has made certain things have more or less impact and therefore have changed us in different ways. The course does this in a way that personalised it for me and made it real. It was a journey of discovery where the reason for my own behaviour was uncovered. For the first time I was able to understand my emotional response to various situations. This created a strength and confidence that I had not experienced before. Circumstances that had previously stressed me are now much easier to deal with. I rarely go a day without reflecting on what I learnt at IMAD and continually using that to improve myself.

The I Make a Difference program was a critical stage in my life. Prior to the programme I felt as if I was floating through life with no sense of direction, purpose or awareness. I was depressed and self-sabotaging. The program was an opportunity to spend time learning about myself. I began to understand the reason why I behaved the way I had been and the impacts that this had on myself and others. This awareness provided me with choices which I didn't feel that I had! I could choose to dwell on what I had lost and mistakes I had made, or I could acknowledge these, work through them with the tools that were provided and make choices for different outcomes in the future. I switched from being reactive to being responsive, taking responsibility for my life and choices. I use the tools from the programme years after attending and I am grateful to my core for this as this has supported me to fully appreciate my life and journey. This programme is not a surface skimmer - it has depth and realness as it came from Melinda's journey.

I attended IMAD as part of my application for a role at GMAD. Taking part in IMAD was an edifying and inspiring experience personally and professionally. The program helped me to take stock of my experiences, assess my strengths and challenges, clarify my goals and troubleshoot road blocks to success. Melinda Cates’ facilitation was brilliant; - incisive, intelligent and yet deeply caring and supportive; all necessary ingredients to effect positive change.The GMAD and IMAD models were inspiring because they reinforced to me the power of personal development within a range of business models and particularly recruitment and HR.I went on to continue my career in the Arts as a Vocal Consultant, with stints in Community Development project work, Event Management and Retail Fashion.IMAD gave me the confidence to always keep personal development at the heart of my projects and work which has enabled me to make a difference in all my endeavours; personally, professionally, culturally and commercially

The IMAD experience allowed me to see the situations in my life that had an emotional and mental impact on my confidence and self-esteem. I was empowered by the dedication and leadership of the program to facilitate my personal development and to never lose sight of who I am and where I have come from. IMAD really understood the people they were working with.

“It is a personal development program that allows you the space and time to look in and discover, connect with the person you want to be, have been and really are. It provides you with the tools to make change in your life once you have highlighted your areas for development or growth. It is done in an environment that is safe and respectful, with people who are accepting and truthful.”

“Since I participated in the I Make a Difference programme I believe it has had an amazing impact on my life. I am a better person, my marriage is so strong and my relationship with my children is fantastic. I have been able to let people who I care about get close to me and I have been able to talk to them. For the first time I have discussed with people close to me, some of the feelings, sensitivities, and needs that I have. I have acknowledged to myself that I can enjoy life more by sharing more of me with others instead of being closed off. I feel less influenced by external events in terms of my reactions to things, events and adversities."

“For me personally I would describe the program as confronting and empowering. I chose to think about issues and events in my life that I have been avoiding for a long time. This was confronting for me because I am so used to portraying that everything in my life is fine and that I have everything under control and that things don’t affect me. I must admit I was a little unprepared for the emotions that I would feel throughout the five days which swung wildly from very eager to be there to resenting that I was thinking about things I didn’t want to think about. Aside from being personally confronting I found the program empowering as it allowed me to identify incidents in my life that have shaped me into the person I am and how I can work through some of these issues to help myself and therefore the way I relate and interact with people in my life. It has made me consciously aware of the thoughts and feelings I’m having and why I am having them and also the impact it has on others. I am thankful that I had the opportunity to attend this program and while I can certainly identify that I have a lot further to go, at least I am taking a proactive step in the right direction. “

Be Your True Self

A Space to Rediscover and Be Your True Self

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